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Offline Louis30july

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Scars?
« on: December 14, 2011, 07:02:02 PM »
Hi, im new here   :hellokitty:

I was just wondering, to people who self harm, how do you manage your scars?

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Offline Nightowl

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #1 on: December 14, 2011, 07:08:30 PM »
I cover up when with friends but if I'm on holiday alone or just out and about on my own I will sometimes wear short sleeves as I find people on the whole don't notice or at least don't ask questions.

For a long time I wouldn't go swimming because of scars but again find once I'm in the water nobody notices.
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Offline findingmyway

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #2 on: December 14, 2011, 07:14:23 PM »
Firstly, welcome to the forum :hug1:

I keep my scars covered at all times both out and about and at home. Im also using a cream called Haelan Cream which is a mild steroidal cream to flatten and fade my scars x
Thank you all so much for your support, I really appreciate it.
Please, all keep as safe as you can.

I will be thinking of you xxxxx :hug1: :hug

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #3 on: December 14, 2011, 07:20:19 PM »
Welcome to the forum  :welcome:

I used silicon patches on my scars which worked wonders on the raised red ones.. apart from that i sometimes use foundation to cover some of them and sometimes i just don't care and leave them alone xxxx
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Re: Scars?
« Reply #4 on: December 14, 2011, 07:21:22 PM »
Hi, I keep mine covered at all times I never swim or wear short sleves even when at home,to me there something that needs to be hidden. Hope that helps x
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Offline Louis30july

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #5 on: December 14, 2011, 07:25:26 PM »
Thankyou!

Do any of you show or have your scars exposed in front of a certain person?

I dont feel I can with my parents, they stare and almost count to see if there are any new ones, its horrible so I keep them covered. However, when with my partner I feel comfortable and am able to show them without the staring, interogation etc.

Fast Aid advance scar gel is a very good gel i have found helpful aswell, just a little tip for you  :thumbsup:

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Offline brokenblackrose

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #6 on: December 14, 2011, 09:01:03 PM »
I don't hide mine anymore, except when I worked. Once people found out I stopped hiding them. And I find people don't ask about them.
Hiding behnd long sleeves and trousers made me feel so low becuase I just wanted to try and look pretty. I have come to realise they are a part of me now.

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #7 on: December 14, 2011, 09:30:52 PM »
hya and welcome. i dont hide my scars from close friends and family. even my 13 yr old has a vague understanding of what is happening to me. i think the only reason i keep them covered is the shame and judgement i feel  from people who do not understand this illness. as you have read by other peoples posts it is purely a personal thing. you have to do what you feel comfortable with. for myself, it lifted a huge burden to be able to say yes i self harm, not because i want to but because i cant help it, and i want your understanding and not keep it secret. xx
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Offline FarmerDec

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #8 on: December 16, 2011, 03:13:13 AM »
I hide mine at college and around pretty much everybody I know. But I have a select few people who I can roll my sleeves up around and have no implication because most of them have had a history of the exact same problem. As for fading, I leave mine as a reminder to me, that I have gotten rid of a trouble in my life, each scars means something, much like a tattoo.

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Re: Scars?
« Reply #9 on: December 16, 2011, 05:23:13 PM »
IE well I never wear short tops ever am pretty much embarrassed about my scars my I keep them covered from my parents but dint mind my close Friend or partner see in them my kids think I fell through a table so they dint mind my scars  :holdingflower:
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