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Offline Sofie

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Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« on: November 05, 2011, 06:08:12 PM »
My sister came around earlier and mentioned that someone she knows self harms and has done it in front of her. Despite the fact that this conversation quite clearly isn't about me, I found it so awkward. Does anyone else get this? I had to go and make myself a drink so that I wasn't listening in on the conversation.

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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2011, 06:09:57 PM »
Yea I find it really difficult too :hug1:

I cant bear other people talking about it and I only feel ok talking about it with my mh support or on here!

Thank you all so much for your support, I really appreciate it.
Please, all keep as safe as you can.

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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2011, 12:38:03 AM »
yeah, really hard :hug2:
there are so many times i want to say something as well because someone is saying something that (to me) is blatantly untrue, but can't.

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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #3 on: November 06, 2011, 10:52:58 AM »
I remember my boss saying he didn't understand why people self harm. It was so tempting to say something; but that was too difficult. He isn't aware that I did / do self harm.

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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #4 on: November 06, 2011, 03:52:35 PM »
Yes and no.
It depends, I find it exstremely difficult when it comes up in college and I don't want my class mates knowing. And half of the stuff they say is bull****!

But I can talk about it professionally, with say another youth worker, on a one to one basis/small group.

I can discuss it in counselling as that's a 'safe' environment.
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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #5 on: November 06, 2011, 05:48:58 PM »
I think a lot of it is to do with who the discussion is with. My sister isn't aware about my self harm.

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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #6 on: November 07, 2011, 07:38:37 PM »
I find it very difficult except with professionals.  It's taken me years to talk about it with my husband even.  I can talk about it in the third person though, as a topic with young people or youth workers.

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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #7 on: November 07, 2011, 07:54:40 PM »
I feel uncomfortable if it is brought up at my reading group, quite often it seems to be written about in books.
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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #8 on: November 07, 2011, 08:46:26 PM »
Very uncomfortable.  After a few years it's begining to feel a little less scary with fella and counsellor but anythng else,    *shudders*
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Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
« Reply #9 on: November 07, 2011, 08:47:21 PM »
A guy started talking about sh in my STEPPS group today, I couldnt handle it - had to leave
Thank you all so much for your support, I really appreciate it.
Please, all keep as safe as you can.

I will be thinking of you xxxxx :hug1: :hug