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Title: things to remind yourself *may trig*
Post by: magentta on October 14, 2008, 10:53:57 AM
i was given a copy of this book from my social worker and it has boxes throughout with phrases to remind yourself so thought i would put them here as they may help people if they repeat certain ones to themselves:

* If i feel like self harming it's because there is something wrong which deserves attention.

* It's okay to be confused. It's all right to not know why. I can take my time to gradually understand myself more.

*My feelings, whatever they are, are real and important.

* the things which have hurt me in my life are real and important, even if they dont show.

* my feelings are valid and justified. They deserve to be recognised.

*sometimes i may need a break from the pain; to postpone my feelings until i have someone to help me with them.

*If i let myself really have my feelings and get support for them, they will pass. The pain won't go on forever.

*i have the right to take control in my own life.

* i can take back control in small ways (and big!).

*I have the right to be angry and protest.

*Anger is natural and healthy. i'm not bad for being angry.

* I have the right to protest about being treated badly.

* i can let out my anger for my own relief and satisfaction.

*i am not bad, dirty or horrible, i have been made to feel like that by things that have happened. But it's not true.

* I dont have to keep believing horrble things about myself. I can chuck them out, and start seeing the good in me.

* Sometimes i hate myself instead of hating someone else. I can turn my anger back onto those who deserve it.

*It's okay to feel needy. Everyone does it sometimes (even if they dont admitt it). I dont deserve to be punished for it.

* It can be very painful to let yourself feel your needs. I can take it slowly and be kind to myself.

* i can have some comfort. i can take care of myself and ask others for some of what i need.

*i dont have to invent a seld - it's already there just waiting to be discoevered.

* i can take my time about discovering myself, starting with really small things.

* There are many aspects to me, and they are all valid parts of the whole me. It's okay to be me.

*it's horrible to feel panicky or unreal, but nothing terrible is going to happen.

* the feelings will pass if i take care of myself.

*It's okay to want help from someone else, too.

*i am worth caring about and doing nice things for

* i am a worthwhile person with lots to offer

* i matter and my life matters.

*It's okay to need support. everyone does.

* If i get the support i need, i will be able to support myself too. It will help me cope.

*i might have to reach out for more support, but i can do that a tiny bit at a time.


xXx
Title: Re: things to remind yourself *may trig*
Post by: Still Scarred on October 14, 2008, 12:58:41 PM
those are mostly quite good...some i don't agree with but such a lovely post. thanks hun
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Post by: icklechick on October 14, 2008, 05:22:05 PM
Fantastic post  ::D:
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Post by: Jess on October 14, 2008, 07:56:47 PM
Magentta, this is a really nice post, thanks for putting it up
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Post by: icklechick on October 14, 2008, 09:27:21 PM
*ickle thinks it deserves a sticky*
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Post by: Alison on October 14, 2008, 09:31:35 PM
out of interest, could you let us know the title of the book and name of the author  :)
Title: Re: things to remind yourself *may trig*
Post by: magentta on October 14, 2008, 09:52:57 PM
course. it is: 'the self harm handbook / the basement project by louis arnold and anne magill'.

glad that people find them useful  ;D

x
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Post by: sarah19 on October 16, 2008, 08:34:55 AM
What a great list. Just wish I could believe them.....

Thanks,

Sarah xx
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Post by: riot-grrrl on October 17, 2008, 02:16:19 AM
thanks for the list hun!
x
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Post by: dizzyfest on November 03, 2008, 11:35:50 PM
Thanks for that list. It's helped me! x
Title: Re: things to remind yourself *may trig*
Post by: Soo on November 28, 2008, 09:53:44 PM
Thanks for the list. Going to save them and read them. Many are helpful and have been suggested by counsellors in the past. Helps to be reminded, even if we don't always believe them at first. Thanks.
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Post by: Nixie on November 28, 2008, 10:01:09 PM
thanks for posting that. was good to read
xXx
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Post by: Savannah on November 29, 2008, 11:33:23 AM
thanks. just wish I could believe even 1 of those things.  Only thing is that on the one about hating yourself and others...can you change the mating to hating...I'm assuming you don't mean "mating others" (although it did make me smile reading that)
Title: Re: things to remind yourself *may trig*
Post by: Miss Gail on December 18, 2008, 02:09:59 PM
Thank You just readign that made me feel better all those things hit home thank you for making that Post :) You've made em feel special for once xx
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Post by: utter nutter on March 04, 2009, 03:53:38 PM
That was realy good, printed off and up on notice board, if I read it enough I may one day believe it.

Thanks
Deb
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Post by: Emmz on May 17, 2009, 05:30:12 PM
thanks for sharing.
hope I can start believing them.
take care hun xxx
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Post by: hidden_life on December 07, 2009, 09:39:24 PM
fantatsic post, thanks hun x
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Post by: billiecat on July 20, 2010, 07:12:19 PM
shall keep referring to this.  it's helped me feel better just reading it.  thanks.   *cat*
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Post by: billy on August 02, 2010, 10:41:22 PM
thank you for posting them just reading them helps me  :hug1:
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Post by: Nephilim on August 05, 2010, 12:57:35 AM
oh gosh, i dont want people to see these things but i need to say them so ill put a  :trig:
what if the pain lasts for ever what if i dont matter what if it will never get any better? what if better is just as bad?? i feel horrid whatever.
i know the post is realy positive but sh**. im sorry i need to ask this, you probably deserve that, a good life but i am not going to get it i dont deserve it obviously. why dont i? what have i done?
im sorry i need to askj you. i dont get it!
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Post by: Tinkerbelle on September 16, 2010, 12:07:09 PM
Great post :) Going to print this off.
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Post by: Shattered on March 04, 2011, 01:15:24 PM
Thankyou x
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Post by: goddess on October 01, 2011, 12:47:58 PM
hi Magenta,that sounds like a great book.Did u get it from amazon? ive been looking for it and cant find it on there.If not,can u tell me where u got it from?thanks.
Title: Re: things to remind yourself *may trig*
Post by: yrangelion on January 04, 2012, 05:35:39 PM
Sorry it's a bit late but I'm quite new to the forum so have only just come across it!!
 
:mademyday: Thank you so much for sharing!! :) x
Title: Re: things to remind yourself *may trig*
Post by: JustMe:) on September 12, 2019, 08:22:33 AM
Hi, Iím new here so Iím not sure how everything works lol but hopefully I am commenting in the right place lol. Thanks for posting this, itís really helpful 🙂👍🏻