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Hi, I'm new to the forum, not sure if I'm posting in the right place. I've been self harming for many years, nothing major I have never put myself in danger. I've been married for 10 years but never told my husband until about 4 years ago. He's be very supportive and let me deal with it my own way. But I am not at the point where he said I need help. I need to phone the Dr's and make an apt... but the thought of picking up the phone and admitting / dealing with it is making me feel sick.... I don't know if i can do it. Any suggestions please? Thank you x
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Would your husband go with you?
Even if he came and sat in the waiting room so you are not sat waiting on your own.
Its a big step your taking, (I'm assuming you are wanting to see the gp about the s/h?) but it is certainly a step in the right direction.
The last time I went to see the GP about it I just sat down and just said I've started SHing again. Although I had a history of it this was a new GP s I had moved house. I found it easier to just come out with it and let them process what I had just said.
Do you see your GP often or have you not got a relationship with them?
:hug2: your taking a massive step so its OK to be nervous, scared, worried, but hopefully once it is done you will feel relief.
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He would come with me, but I don't know if I want to go on my own. I've seen my GP about general stuff, she's very straight to the point no messing type of lady. Think she would be understanding but practical.
I'm not an open person, can't think of anything worse than telling someone face to face... even typing this makes me feel sick.
Thank you for your reply xxx
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:welcome:
im in a similar boat re: talking to a GP. I dont have a fixed one so i'm at a loss as to what to do right now.
However, next month, my best friend is coming to MIND with me. Hopefully they will be able to advise/help.
Is this something perhaps, that you could consider? xx xx
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I never thought about Mind. Can you just drop in there? Really hope they can help you. I just can't stop feeling sick at the thought of going to speak to someone x
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I think you can just drop in there.
You could say you're not feeling up to talking just yet ... but want to find out what they can offer?
THat's my plan anyway ;D xx xx
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If you will find it too hard to tell them outright do you think that you could write a note like 'ive been s/hing for a long time but I think that I need some support with it now'???
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Thanks for your replies, I really appreciate them. My husband would come with me in a shot, I just don't know if I would want him to tbh. :sb:
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If you feel you don't want your husband to go with you, then be honest, maybe tell him that you feel you need to do this on your own so that you feel more achievement by doing so.
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I still haven't gone! Just can't face it yet. :no:
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My husband phoned an made an appointment for Thursday. He explained that I wanted to chat to the Dr but he would be with me etc so she is expecting us both. Don't know if I can tell the Dr everything so he can speak for me. I know I will clam up and be terrified. Feel sick at the thought of going but at least I have him with me. ::-\: :-X
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Jot a few notes down to take too - it's only a brief amount of time that you have to talk to your doctor, and even if hubby is speaking you still need to make sure that you don't miss things that could influence your gp's course of action.
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That's a great idea, I have no doubt that hubby will go well prepared. Wish it wasn't so hard to go... keep getting clamy and hot and cold thinking about it.
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Hi. I'm very new here, but I am terrified of the idea of actually going and asking for help. I just wanted to say that I think you're being really courageous, and I hope that the doctor is helpful. Writing stuff down seems like a good idea. :hug1:
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Thank you :thumbsup: My Doctor is a very straight to the point no messing Dr.... the type I think who will want to help and not just fob me off. I hope anyway!!!
PS I really hope you can get soon also xxx :hug2:
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I went, my husband came with me. She was brilliant, very matter of fact with no fussing. Gave us the number of a Counsellor to call. I've given my husband the number cos I know I won't call, but it was step 1 completed.
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Congratulations - taking that first step is an achievement in itself.
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Thank you.
I couldn't stop crying all night after going. No idea why.... just couldn't stop. :hissy:
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I still haven't called. My husband has been amazing and not pushing me. I think I'll try and get an apt in early Jan. New year / new start..... lets see...... x
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how do you feel about calling now?
might be worth considering that these things take time to actually happen with waiting lists etc.