I've found the info and support available through this site quite helpful
http://www.bpdworld.org/ .
I also found a load of stuff on the NHS website that was really good and positive about prognosis for those with BPD. It outlined very well the treatment options that would be available to us all in an ideal world. It's a shame their availability is a bit like entering a raffle.
The best book I've read is The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide.
Hope you find what you need out there - and ignore the prejudiced rubbish you find along the way.