funeral/thanksgiving service.

[Tallulah]

i have a funeral/thanksgiving service to go to next week. i don't know what to wear. it's for a 17 year old and i doubt he'd want everyone in black but there's been no specific instruction that it's okay to wear colour. this might seem like a waste of a thread sorry but yeah, advice please  :birthday cake:

[Lily Kym]

maybe wear grey?
i usually do if it's not been stipulated ....

if it's someone older however i wear black. no question.
 

[Patient Pianist]

Hey

Sadly i've done  a few younger peoples funerals.  Unless specifically stated by family i dont tend to wear black mainly but then i add a little twist that i know wouldnt be lost of the dear person who's funeral it is.

i'm assuming you knew the person.... you know what would make them smile.

Take care.

PP xx

[greenday]

mabe try to where black and gry i do that if im at a funeral good luck 

[Tallulah]

hmm yeah grey is a good idea. the other thing i thought was a black dress but colourful shoes/jewelry. and maybe take a colourful cardi and swop from a black one if other people are in colour. it feels rather self indulgent worrying about what i should wear to a funeral but i wouldn't want to offend anyone.

[Lily Kym]

that sounds like a good idea - black dress with colourful shoes etc.

it's not self indulgent .. i think a lot of people wonder about this issue hun xx

[Tallulah]

i've gone for a fairly plain black dress and teal jewellery. feeling rather tearful and angry. going to the funeral of a 17 year old just feels so wrong.

[Lily Kym]

 

[Terri]

Hey Tallulah. How're you doing?


I've been to a few funerals for people who were just teenagers. It feels awful and I can understand you feelings of tearfulness and anger - it can bring about a real mixed set of emotions.


I think the fact that you're going to a thanksgiving service says a lot. Though the passing of this person is terribly sad, it's important to focus on the good, positive things that happened in his life.

[Tallulah]

i'm okay. it was a beautiful service, very much focussing on how much he did in the extra 18 months he had (he was given an imminently terminal diagnosis in dec 2010).