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Title: Scars and family holiday
Post by: Quickquestion123 on September 02, 2019, 09:17:43 PM
I am going on holiday in a couple of weeks with my boyfriends family, I am 26. Right now Iím doing amazingly well and havenít self harmed since June. All my scars are at the top of my leg so never been an issue with having to tell people or cover up, however on holiday this isnít going to be easy. Iím basically looking for any advice on what you would do? I have some fairly big scars that are still red, risen and you can tell theyíve been sutured, I bought some veil makeup online and for all it fades them slightly itís still very obvious. I donít want to spend all holiday hiding my leg and wearing shorts I want to swim and sunbathe. What would you do? Do I cover it as well as I can and just crack on with things? Is it best to cover it so they canít see? Do I say anything? What do I say if they say something? None of his family know about any mental health struggles. Any advice greatly appreciated as none of my friends know either so nobody to ask for advice, thank you 😊
Title: Re: Scars and family holiday
Post by: Skye on September 02, 2019, 09:26:49 PM
Hi  :welcomeani1:

I guess it depends on what you feel comfortable with and your relationship with your boyfriends family. What would you feel comfortable with sharing? It sounds like you just want to get on with your holiday - you donít Ďoweí any explanations.
Title: Re: Scars and family holiday
Post by: Rob on September 02, 2019, 09:36:10 PM 
Title: Re: Scars and family holiday
Post by: Lorien on September 02, 2019, 11:25:21 PM
Personally I wear board shorts to cover scars on my own scars on my thighs. With dark coloured shorts they can't be seen even when they are raised or indented - it looks like wrinkles in the fabric when wet. I also wear mens ones because they are longer in general. I do this because I choose not to allow people to see. But that is just my choice.

If you are ok with an explanation, then just wear what you want.