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Title: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: Sofie on November 05, 2011, 06:08:12 PM
My sister came around earlier and mentioned that someone she knows self harms and has done it in front of her. Despite the fact that this conversation quite clearly isn't about me, I found it so awkward. Does anyone else get this? I had to go and make myself a drink so that I wasn't listening in on the conversation.
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: findingmyway on November 05, 2011, 06:09:57 PM
Yea I find it really difficult too :hug1:

I cant bear other people talking about it and I only feel ok talking about it with my mh support or on here!

Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: Turtle on November 06, 2011, 12:38:03 AM
yeah, really hard :hug2:
there are so many times i want to say something as well because someone is saying something that (to me) is blatantly untrue, but can't.
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: Sofie on November 06, 2011, 10:52:58 AM
I remember my boss saying he didn't understand why people self harm. It was so tempting to say something; but that was too difficult. He isn't aware that I did / do self harm.
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: rainbow on November 06, 2011, 03:52:35 PM
Yes and no.
It depends, I find it exstremely difficult when it comes up in college and I don't want my class mates knowing. And half of the stuff they say is bull****!

But I can talk about it professionally, with say another youth worker, on a one to one basis/small group.

I can discuss it in counselling as that's a 'safe' environment.
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: Sofie on November 06, 2011, 05:48:58 PM
I think a lot of it is to do with who the discussion is with. My sister isn't aware about my self harm.
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: wendymum on November 07, 2011, 07:38:37 PM
I find it very difficult except with professionals.  It's taken me years to talk about it with my husband even.  I can talk about it in the third person though, as a topic with young people or youth workers.
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: Nightowl on November 07, 2011, 07:54:40 PM
I feel uncomfortable if it is brought up at my reading group, quite often it seems to be written about in books.
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: mirrhi on November 07, 2011, 08:46:26 PM
Very uncomfortable.  After a few years it's begining to feel a little less scary with fella and counsellor but anythng else,    *shudders*
xx
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: findingmyway on November 07, 2011, 08:47:21 PM
A guy started talking about sh in my STEPPS group today, I couldnt handle it - had to leave
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: Hysteria on November 07, 2011, 11:27:15 PM
I have told a couple of close friends that I sh when I can't deal with stuff , they were really supportive  and told me whenever I feel the need to  I am to call them night or day which made all teary eyed , one even told me she has done some reading up on BPD  so she can understand it a bit better which kinda made me realise what good friends they really were .

I have also spoken about my sh in STEPPS because I wear t shirts and my scars still show and because I feel the need to be totally honest about how my week has been  , well I did until last week when someone from the group asked me direct to my face why did I cut where everyone can see , it really upset me because of the manner in which she asked more than anything else , It was like she was accusationing me of sh'ing for attention which really hurt , I now have gone back to wearing long sleeves everywhere now as I don't like the thought of me triggering anyone or being called an attention seeker :(
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: Tigger on November 15, 2011, 07:06:57 PM
went on a child protection course recently which completely screwed with my head :hide: however the stupid lady was talking about sh and getting it all wrong and i desperately wanted to tell her what a load of rubbish she was talking how was she qualified to teach the course!!!  :>:(:

however generally when the topic comes up anytime it makes my insides squirm and i start to feel very hot almost i tend to keep v quite and then get paranoid someone will notice as im never quiet  ::)
Title: Re: Discussing self harm - anyone else find it difficult?
Post by: BrownBear on November 15, 2011, 07:44:33 PM
Is it strange that I like talking about the subject? I've always found subjects around MH fascinating, I like to think that if I didn't have my wobble period at college and stuck with it I'd have gone in helping people with MH problems (as opposed to developing my own  rotfl)

So no, I don't have problems discussing SH, until it comes to the context of myself which whilst I'm happy to talk about it around friends, I don't enjoy it quite as much as I do as if I ws talking about someone else/SH in general. Not learned to accept it fully yet. Getting there though :).