Willingness to change

[BA]

So, I've been kicking around some thoughts tonight about how I need to change. A lot. I know this won't happen in one big leap, but it's important that it happens. The biggest obstacle to this is what is in my head. My counsellor is only too aware of this.  

I am not going to go to commit or promise big changes as that is a bit foolish, but I must change for the sake of my own health. When things stay the same for a long time they get stale and rotten. It's not fun and is only a way of keeping anxiety going and going and going. Change itself will, of course, produce more anxiety, but I have to start believing that will be better than doing nothing, sitting around hoping things will change which doesn't work.

There are practical things I need to do and have done, but the main changes will have to be around thought patterns. Part of this will be about socialising more. I am, at my core, not one for much human contact.

Occasional frying pan may be required.  

[caspers smudj]

ba the best thing would be to do it gradually - little steps at a time - so changes are easier to cope with and less daunting
it may make it easier for you
xx

[Tania]

*Pause for effect*  :frying pan:

Sounds like a totally sensible thought process. If you are a person who likes structure then an idea might be to get all those things out your head, lessen the inevitable anxiety levels. How about writing out some long term and short term changes and then idea of how to achieve them. That way you have a plan and can see that you know what you want to do but wont get overwhelmed by feeling so much needs to be done.

x

[angeldevil123]

*Pause for effect*  :frying pan:

Sounds like a totally sensible thought process. If you are a person who likes structure then an idea might be to get all those things out your head, lessen the inevitable anxiety levels. How about writing out some long term and short term changes and then idea of how to achieve them. That way you have a plan and can see that you know what you want to do but wont get overwhelmed by feeling so much needs to be done.

x

Good idea

[BA]

I am good and bad at structure - very good, or very bad.  I've a whiteboard and 10-12 A4 sheets with info on my wall, but I often don't look at them or forget that they are there.  so, I'll take some of them down as they're no longer needed. I'm a bit better with my diary, but that's more of reminders than anything else. I'm quite bad a lot of things now.

I write some things down, but not all as I don't want any one to read them when they're a bit personal. My counsellor gave me goal sheets and I had to rank things by how much I wanted to work on them, etc. That was OK.

Doing nothing just makes things worse...

[Bea]

Have you thought of keeping a blog, so that you can journal your thoughts and feelings, without anyone accessing them randomly? 


Change is something I need to address too - it is a big and scary thing, which I too am struggling to face. 


I hope that you can begin with some achievable small steps, and find the gradual change easier to face.

[angeldevil123]

start a blog on blogspot/blogger and keep it your own personal journal or simply open word and start from there