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Offline Skye

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Acts of self kindness
« on: March 17, 2019, 11:01:17 AM »
I struggle with self compassion and am working on improving it. I understand it intellectually and can come up with things to do for myself which are nice, caring, compassionate. I can even maintain that mindset for a certain length of time. I see the benefits. I like relaxation etc but sometimes, probably when worthlessness/ badness feelings are triggered I fight the compassion stuff. In time I hope to overcome this. Iím sure others face the same battle and wonder how they overcome it. And what acts of self kindness do you like doing?

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Re: Acts of self kindness
« Reply #1 on: April 21, 2019, 04:27:20 AM »
Hey i struggle with this too. My best form of self care is a nap. I can chill and watch netflix etc but then i just feel guilty. All the traditional self care i struggle with a bit.
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Re: Acts of self kindness
« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2019, 04:54:04 AM »
Sleep is restorative isnít it?  :)

A hot drink, whilst a complete cliche  ::), also helps me sometimes.

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Re: Acts of self kindness
« Reply #3 on: April 29, 2019, 11:52:32 AM »
I have terrible Insomnia and i was told to have a whole bedtime routine including a bubble bath etc. I live in Australia so all I ended up feeling was either very hot or if I tried to cool the water down it was too cold I couldn't seem to find a middle ground so that was a fail  :doh:

I have a bullet Journal with moods and gratitude etc in but I decorated in pretty colours and stickers etc. It's relaxing but it keeps my hands busy and is practical so it doesn't feel like a waste of time.
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Re: Acts of self kindness
« Reply #4 on: April 29, 2019, 12:06:14 PM »
Your bullet journal sounds beautiful!

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Re: Acts of self kindness
« Reply #5 on: April 29, 2019, 07:38:07 PM »
I struggle with self-kindness too, I am trying to work on it, but I'll be honest I am struggling with it today xx
when you feel like giving up, think of all the reasons you've held on for so long!! :)

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Re: Acts of self kindness
« Reply #6 on: April 29, 2019, 07:43:24 PM »
Hello! What a great post. :)


I like:


- Having a shower with delicious smelling shower gel.
- Spending time on my appearance (applying light makeup and curling my hair.)
- Going for a paddle in the sea and smelling the sea air.
- Making myself good food.
- Using my neck massager.


I think my issue is that I'm OK at doing nice things for myself when I'm feeling well, but when things are rubbish I lose the motivation to do anything. So I don't shower for days/weeks, don't leave the house, don't cook etc. It's a hard thing.
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Re: Acts of self kindness
« Reply #7 on: June 21, 2019, 02:34:19 AM »
Have you had cbt ?

It helps challenge the addiction of past behaviour and triggers. Self harm is an addiction, so are all our reactions to triggers .

You can change your reactions and behaviours with the right mindset and support.It takes hard work and effort but is worth it.

Self help books are a good starting point to help change your thinking and challenge self esteem issues x
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