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Offline Vermilion

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Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« on: November 17, 2018, 03:54:52 PM »
I've posted a bit about this in my other thread so I shan't repeat myself too much here.

In a nutshell my MH worker has suggested some 'intense' help for me but the only worker who specialises in what I need is a bloke and I'm going to have to talk about rape as well as my hormone issues at that time of the month. There are female workers but they can't give me the level if support I need. I'm not sure if I could talk to a bloke about these things because I've never talked to a male MH worker. I'm not sure what to do; do I try the bloke and risk not being given the  level of support that I need because I might not be open enough or do I see a woman who I could be more open with but won't be able to offer me a high level of support?

Dies anyone have any thoughts on this?
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Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Reply #1 on: November 17, 2018, 05:08:52 PM »
Geez, that's a toughie.

I know myself from my experiences, that I myself hold back a bit more when speaking with men. I cannot help it. Almost like they have failed me before even meeting me. I know it's not their fault, yet I can't seem to stop it.

I want to suggest doing the whole pros and cons thing but I think you have already got the two major pros and cons. And, I see that they are kinda tied right now. In my opinion, I wouldn't know what to do either. I'm sorry that it doesn't help.

Do you have a stronger view on one than the other?
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Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Reply #2 on: November 17, 2018, 05:14:40 PM »
You could give the bloke a try, and then if it doesn't work out and you are unable to open up you can somebody different. Sometimes male MH workers can surprise you.
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Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Reply #3 on: November 18, 2018, 07:51:50 PM »
I'm sort if thinking to try the bloke and see how it goes but if it doesn't work it'll likely take forever to change to a woman, it's taken years to get even this far. Plus, change is very difficult due to trust issues as well as the aspergers so ideally I need to keep change to a minimum, I'm overwhelmed as it is but I also know that I need to change things.. It's certainly a tough one   :hide:
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Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Reply #4 on: November 18, 2018, 08:15:30 PM »
It is a tough on and only you can decide.
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Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Reply #5 on: December 18, 2018, 08:42:03 PM »
My advice would be to give him a try. I have always been a bit unsure about talking to men but actually the 2 best therapists I had were male. They were both very understanding and compassionate so try not to write him off before you've spoken to him, he might surprise you. Good luck