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Offline Debbiejenn

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Help others to understand
« on: September 05, 2018, 10:21:20 PM »
I self harm... cutting has been more recent but I have always either struggled with starving myself (anorexia) binging and purging (bulimia) or excessive exercise. I am treated for depression.

I have recently been through an awful ordeal of reporting childhood sexual abuse that happened to me which has resulted in his conviction. This was 2 weeks ago.

I have become very close to someone who has really helped me through this and earlier this week we were really happy, joking mucking about and looking forward to the weekend. Last night I cut myself and today I told j. But he doesnít understand. He is almost blaming himself for not being there for me (he would have been
If I had called but of course I didnít want to at the time). I tried to reassure him that whilst I did this it doesnít change my feelings and our relationship etc but he is struggling with it as it is totally alien to him. How can I help him understand ?

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Re: Help others to understand
« Reply #1 on: September 06, 2018, 08:07:03 AM »
 :hug1: he will need time and space to get his head around this. Just keep reassuring him that it isn't his fault.
now hand over the tea bags and we won't have any trouble.... :police:


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Re: Help others to understand
« Reply #2 on: September 06, 2018, 11:14:09 AM »
It can be really difficult for non self harmers to understand the reasons behind self harm. It was one of the reasons that this site exists, to help inform others the reasons why and to show how positive support can be helpful.
Perhaps download or show him some of the information here: http://nshn.co.uk/forum/index.php?topic=78910.0
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Re: Help others to understand
« Reply #3 on: September 16, 2018, 08:52:59 AM »
Thank you x