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Survivor Room / Swimming
« Last post by Skye on March 19, 2019, 12:53:21 PM »
I canít at the moment due to a wound needing to heal. But Iíd like to. I have a physical illness which makes exercise difficult and swimming would probably be helpful. I have significant issues with body image but also would want 3/4 or full length sleeves to swim in. Does anyone have recommendations for swim wear or good experiences with swimming?
Survivor Room / Acts of self kindness
« Last post by Skye on March 17, 2019, 11:01:17 AM »
I struggle with self compassion and am working on improving it. I understand it intellectually and can come up with things to do for myself which are nice, caring, compassionate. I can even maintain that mindset for a certain length of time. I see the benefits. I like relaxation etc but sometimes, probably when worthlessness/ badness feelings are triggered I fight the compassion stuff. In time I hope to overcome this. Iím sure others face the same battle and wonder how they overcome it. And what acts of self kindness do you like doing?
Survivor Room / Re: The stigma of benefits
« Last post by Vermilion on March 14, 2019, 10:54:12 PM »
I don't understand why I'm so tired if I don't work but constantly distracting is difficult. It's also hard work to keep on top of the daily jobs when you can barely find the courage to get out of bed to pee never mind do anything else. Sometimes I feel guilty for enjoying something when everyone else is working and I'm sitting in the garden. In a way I can understand people feeling p**ed off.

Do people have sympathy for genuine cases? I'm not too sure that they even believe that MH is a genuine illness. Many see it as laziness, finding excuses, being a special snowflake or the whole 'millennials don't know what hard times are' and all that crap. It's so hard to convince ourselves otherwise when we already hate ourselves y'know?
Survivor Room / Re: The stigma of benefits
« Last post by sniper on March 14, 2019, 07:47:34 PM »
I often sit here during the day when people are at work, and think that whomever can hear or see me, don't see the issues I face on a daily basis. I then feel that all the things I do during the day to distract is just enjoying leisure time, to other people. Yes, I am on PC, watch TV, play video games and listen to music, but in all of that there is a level of distraction. I feel that if I didn't do these things, I would be constantly trying to kill myself. I hope some of that made sense.

My sis has always pointed out hat the family are at WORK each day and I'm at home doing nothing. So, how can I possibly be tired or achy or have headaches from stress?!

If I don't see the stigma from elsewhere I certainly get it from family; and they know(ish) what's wrong with me!
Survivor Room / Re: The stigma of benefits
« Last post by Tucan on March 14, 2019, 04:09:55 PM »
I do feel a stigma for being on benefits, but people do have more sympathy for genuine cases like ours. Sometimes we need reminding of that.
Survivor Room / The stigma of benefits
« Last post by Vermilion on March 14, 2019, 02:18:32 PM »
This has been bumbling around my head for a while so here it goes.. .

I'm currently claiming ESA and PIP and I'm really finding the shame hard to deal with. Part of it is how the DWP and it's minions make us feel, the way we get interrogated and made to feel like scroungers but I guess that's their jobs right?

What I'm really struggling with is the perceptions of people around me and the negative publicity in the media. So many people will say things like people are faking MH because they can't be bothered or the whole  people are pussies these days etc. We all know the crap people come up with. The problem for me is that because I don't want people to find out that I'm on benefits I hide from people, I'm often afraid to go outside in the garden because I don't want people to see me. This isn't helping me because I struggle with the public normally but this is making it worse. Honestly, I already despise myself for claiming and this is adding fuel.

Anyone else know how to deal with it? Or can understand it?
Research Topics / Understanding self-harm in the general population
« Last post by AZP on March 14, 2019, 11:18:38 AM »
Hi there,

I am currently seeking participants aged 18+ and who have self-harmed in the last 3 months to take part in my study about understanding the thoughts, feelings and behaviours of people who self-harm in the general population. My online study invites you to complete 2 questionnaires, 3 months apart. If you fulfil the above inclusion criteria I would really appreciate you taking part in helping us better understand and help those who self-harm.

Many thanks,
AZP :)

Research Topics / Re: Body Modification and Self Harm
« Last post by Taryn on February 02, 2019, 05:41:34 PM »
Hi everyone,

I have amended some details of my study to make it easier for people to take part (& have recieved Ethical Approval for these changes from Staffordshire University).

I am looking for people aged 18-45 who have experience of both body modifications (e.g. tattoos, non-earlobe piercings, scarification or sub-dermal implants) and self-harm and are willing to talk about their experiences.

Unfortunately, you are unable to participate if you are currently an inpatient in hospital, or are too physically or mentally unwell to participate.

One of the changes is that I am now able to offer a range of ways to complete the interviews (face-to-face, by phone, by video calling (e.g. Skype) and by instant messaging (e.g. facebook messenger or WhatsApp)).

I expect interviews to take no longer than an hour to complete, although this will depend on you so may take longer if you wish to share a lot of information about your experiences. It is a one-off interview.

Another change is that I can now offer a shoppping voucher (or e-voucher) as a thank you for participating and to compensate you for your time. I can be flexible with when interviews are scheduled to take place (within reason!) to make it as convenient as possible for you to take part.

All information that is shared will be kept confidential within the research team (myself and my research supervisors - academic staff from Staffordshire University). Confidentiality may have to be breached if there is concern for your safety. All personally identifiable information (e.g. name, name of street or town where you live) will be removed or changed so you cannot be identified.

I will be writing an executive summary of the research and this will include the findings of the research. I am very willling to share it here once the research is complete and written up (end of April).

I have permission to recruit via social media, so I have set up a facebook page 'Body mod & self harm study'. Hopefully this will come up if you search for it, but in case it doesn't the link is:

If you have any questions please feel free to ask. :)
I can be contacted by email ( or through the messages here on the forum.

Thank you!

Survivor Room / Re: Christmas
« Last post by Tucan on December 28, 2018, 07:41:03 AM »
Puppy sounds good.
Survivor Room / Re: Christmas
« Last post by Tired Soul on December 27, 2018, 11:12:28 PM »
completely understand, purplebutterfly <3  :13886: :hug1:
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