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Survivor Room / Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Last post by Vermilion on November 18, 2018, 07:51:50 PM »
I'm sort if thinking to try the bloke and see how it goes but if it doesn't work it'll likely take forever to change to a woman, it's taken years to get even this far. Plus, change is very difficult due to trust issues as well as the aspergers so ideally I need to keep change to a minimum, I'm overwhelmed as it is but I also know that I need to change things.. It's certainly a tough one   :hide:
Survivor Room / Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Last post by Tucan on November 17, 2018, 05:14:40 PM »
You could give the bloke a try, and then if it doesn't work out and you are unable to open up you can somebody different. Sometimes male MH workers can surprise you.
Survivor Room / Re: Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Last post by sniper on November 17, 2018, 05:08:52 PM »
Geez, that's a toughie.

I know myself from my experiences, that I myself hold back a bit more when speaking with men. I cannot help it. Almost like they have failed me before even meeting me. I know it's not their fault, yet I can't seem to stop it.

I want to suggest doing the whole pros and cons thing but I think you have already got the two major pros and cons. And, I see that they are kinda tied right now. In my opinion, I wouldn't know what to do either. I'm sorry that it doesn't help.

Do you have a stronger view on one than the other?
Survivor Room / Therapy choices **Trigs SA**
« Last post by Vermilion on November 17, 2018, 03:54:52 PM »
I've posted a bit about this in my other thread so I shan't repeat myself too much here.

In a nutshell my MH worker has suggested some 'intense' help for me but the only worker who specialises in what I need is a bloke and I'm going to have to talk about rape as well as my hormone issues at that time of the month. There are female workers but they can't give me the level if support I need. I'm not sure if I could talk to a bloke about these things because I've never talked to a male MH worker. I'm not sure what to do; do I try the bloke and risk not being given the  level of support that I need because I might not be open enough or do I see a woman who I could be more open with but won't be able to offer me a high level of support?

Dies anyone have any thoughts on this?
Survivor Room / Re: Recovery - MIGHT TRIGGER (sh, sui)
« Last post by Vermilion on November 17, 2018, 03:40:08 PM »
Thank you for this.  :hug2:
Research Topics / Understanding why people self-harm: Q study
« Last post by SHResearcher on November 16, 2018, 02:25:50 PM »
Do you self-harm?

Or have you self-harmed in the past?

We are looking for adults to contribute to research to help understand the reasons for self- harm.
The study will involve sorting some statements about your reasons for self-harm and answering some questions; this is called a Q-sort.
The Q-sort will be sent to your postal address. If you would like more information about the study or would like to take part please email:

Survivor Room / Re: Recovery - MIGHT TRIGGER (sh, sui)
« Last post by hayley on November 16, 2018, 10:24:36 AM »
Thanks for your replies and I'm pleased my post wasn't read as being a "bragging" post.

I like that you are happy that I'm doing well.
Survivor Room / Re: Recovery - MIGHT TRIGGER (sh, sui)
« Last post by sniper on November 16, 2018, 08:47:22 AM »
Hi, I think I remember you from some time ago.

This post, made me smile and feel so warm inside. Thank you for sharing this. It's nice to see that people do come through the other side of the doom and gloom.
I'm currently not a believer right now as things are at the worst they have ever been. I dreamed that I could write something like this for many years.

This, is awesome! I hope for a long, happy and healthy life for you with all the positivity I have left in me!
Thank you again, for sharing.
Survivor Room / Re: Recovery - MIGHT TRIGGER (sh, sui)
« Last post by Tucan on November 16, 2018, 08:04:10 AM »
Welldone. That sounds like a really positive post. Happy thing are getting better for you.
Survivor Room / Recovery - MIGHT TRIGGER (sh, sui)
« Last post by hayley on November 15, 2018, 11:04:26 PM »
Its been a while since I've visited this site. All is well.

For those of you who find the struggle is real - it is you to whom I address this post.

I have battled with my demons for many years which resulted in numerous self-harm incidents, complete despondency and not wanting to live, so much so, that I overdosed a lot. Many trips to A&E and far too many inpatient stays.

My last admission was 2013 and I haven't self-harmed for 3 years.

I was discharged from CMHT 2 years ago.

I believe the turn around came with eventually getting the right combination of anti-depressant medication.

I still have low days but not to the point of wanting to end it all.

I still haven't got a handle on my anxiety though and still experience broken sleep even with medication for it.

The point of this post is things did change for me and I felt I should share as I'm living proof that some people do recover to some extent.

I didn't think I ever would break the cycle so there is hope.

I am a survivor and one day you may be too

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