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Survivor Room / Re: A fraud if I don't harm enough?
« Last post by Vermilion on May 04, 2019, 02:21:58 PM »
Perhaps they don't all mean to be dismissive but it does feel like it and it's really hard when self esteem is non existent. It's like when I work myself up and get into what I feel is a dangerous place in my head do I phone crisis and get told to have a bath and see my GP. Gee thanks, now I feel like an idiot as well.

I guess the problem with my PIP/ESA claims is that I doubt that I'm 'unwell' enough to deserve it. Perhaps it's because I often see SH as a way to make things real as opposed to just in my head  ::-\:. My SH has been significantly reduced since I left work do in a sense I can see that it's the right thing but I wonder if I shouldn't be better by now.

I'm overthinking again.
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Survivor Room / Re: A fraud if I don't harm enough?
« Last post by jackgrillo on May 01, 2019, 11:13:42 AM »
I know the feeling of not being able to justify stuff if you haven't harmed.

ESA/PIP is for people who are unwell. Even if you haven't harmed, you are still unwell, so you still deserve it.

Being passed from psych to psych sucks. From their point of view they are massively overworked, and there are far too few of them. That doesn't make it any easier when you're on the receiving end, but I don't think they mean to be quite so dismissive. Occasionally you do get one who is rubbish though.

:hug2:
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Survivor Room / Re: A fraud if I don't harm enough?
« Last post by Vermilion on April 30, 2019, 10:44:17 PM »
I wish I could feel that I'm worth it but psychs only give the impression that I'm not worth their time. They just pass me back and forth because no workers can be arsed. I wonder if I'm 'unwell' and maybe I just need to grow a set and get on with it. I'm an adult and need to get my crap together. It's hard though because psychs are supposed to be experts so they're right, surely?
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Survivor Room / Re: DBT *brief mention of SH*
« Last post by yrangelion on April 29, 2019, 08:17:38 PM »
Anything you want to ask, let me know xx
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Survivor Room / Re: DBT *brief mention of SH*
« Last post by Terri on April 29, 2019, 07:44:33 PM »
As someone who's going to do DBT in the near future (depending on waiting list time), this is really helpful. Thank you. :)
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Survivor Room / Re: What are you grateful for today?
« Last post by Terri on April 29, 2019, 07:43:53 PM »
My cat.
My job.
Asda delivery.
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Survivor Room / Re: Acts of self kindness
« Last post by Terri on April 29, 2019, 07:43:24 PM »
Hello! What a great post. :)


I like:


- Having a shower with delicious smelling shower gel.
- Spending time on my appearance (applying light makeup and curling my hair.)
- Going for a paddle in the sea and smelling the sea air.
- Making myself good food.
- Using my neck massager.


I think my issue is that I'm OK at doing nice things for myself when I'm feeling well, but when things are rubbish I lose the motivation to do anything. So I don't shower for days/weeks, don't leave the house, don't cook etc. It's a hard thing.
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Survivor Room / Re: What are you grateful for today?
« Last post by yrangelion on April 29, 2019, 07:39:22 PM »
That I have a job to go to. x
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Survivor Room / Re: Acts of self kindness
« Last post by yrangelion on April 29, 2019, 07:38:07 PM »
I struggle with self-kindness too, I am trying to work on it, but I'll be honest I am struggling with it today xx
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Survivor Room / Re: A fraud if I don't harm enough?
« Last post by yrangelion on April 29, 2019, 07:35:22 PM »
You are definitely worth helping and supporting and it's wrong that services are making us feel like this isn't true. You are not a fraud at all and I'm sorry that you have been made to feel this way. Thinking of you and I wish I had something more helpful to say xx
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