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Offline SnapHappyFUP

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
To ease how much emotional hurt and pain I am feeling.

What has brought me to this point?
My so-called friend doesn't want to know me anymore and has moved to another town.

Have I been here before?
Yes

What did I do to deal with it?
Cried a lot, somehow managed not to hurt myself

How did I feel then?
Still felt awful

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
Cried, comfort eaten, drunk alcohol, taken 3 doses of my anti-anxiety medication, had a bath, tried to distract.

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Hide under my duvet and listen to music on my mp3 player, have a soothing hot drink, try to sleep.

How do I feel right now?
Desperately low and in need of a physical release either through cutting or o-ding

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Numb, relieved

How will I feel after hurting myself?
Numb to begin with until guilt hits me

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Guilty and sore.

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
No

Do I need to hurt myself?
Yes but trying to stop myself



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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
Because I'm not good enough. I constantly fall short of being who I want to be and achieving what I should be able to achieve.
What has brought me to this point?
I'm sad and I don't like myself. I'm trying to be more forgiving of myself and not set my sights too high but that just leaves me second rate and good for nothing.
Have I been here before?
Yes
What did I do to deal with it?
Try harder
How did I feel then?
I still fail
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
Played guitar
What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Maybe mindfulness meditation

How do I feel right now?
Desperately sad. A failure
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Justified
How will I feel after hurting myself?
Right
How will I feel tomorrow morning?
don't know
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
don't know
Do I need to hurt myself?
yes

Offline Leia_katyann1289

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why do i feel i need to hurt myself?
because it makes me feel better when im angry or upset. it releases these emotions.

what has brought me to this point?
trouble at home and bullies at school.

have i been here before?
yes.

what did i do to deal with it?
i cut myself and cried a lot. i didnt interact with people at all.

how did i feel then?
i felt lost, as if i didnt belong anywhere.

what have you done to ease this discomfort so far?
i write stories and poetry.

what else can i do that wont hurt me?
read a book, or do some hard exercise.

how do i feel right now?
still lost, i feel like i havent got anyone to talk to.

how will i feel when i am hurting myself?
nothing. i dont feel anything except the pain that has brought me to cut.

how will i feel after hurting myself?
i will feel content, as if i have accomplished something.

how will i feel tomorrow morning?
hopeful that i can make it through the day without hurting myself or getting upset.

can i avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
i dont know, but i am hopeful.

do i need to hurt myself?
yes but i dont like the scars that come with self harming.

Offline dollydrop96

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
because i dont know what else to do...

What has brought me to this point?
nobody listening to me, nobody being there for me, my bf moving away next month, feeling no love from anyone

Have I been here before?
yeah

What did I do to deal with it?
self harm...

How did I feel then?
angry and upset...

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
nothing

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
who knows

How do I feel right now?
angry, upset, annoyed, depressed...

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
happy, glad

How will I feel after hurting myself?
sore, stupid

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
stupid, idiotic, like im being a drma queen

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
if yes, i dont know how to or what to do

Do I need to hurt myself?
i feel like i do...but i know i probably dont because there are ways to stop...i just dont know how...

Offline Gracie95

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Re: Before you self harm, ask yourself these questions... *Triggering Content*
« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2015, 09:21:56 PM »
What has brought me to this point?
I don't know that to do anymore, I'm lost

Have I been here before?
I have been cutting on and off for four years but I fought the urge to do it for three years before then...

What did I do to deal with it?
I don't know how to deal with it, I try to take my mind off of it but 9/10 I give in and I cut

How did I feel then?
At the time I'm relieved I'm feeling something other than a numbness through my whole body. But in the morning I feel guilt embarrassed ashamed... How could I of done something like when other people have worse problems than me??

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
I've tried exercising it out but what I need is to feel the pain and nothing else does it for me

How do I feel right now?
Hopeless, lost, numb, angry, ashamed of myself

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Good, relaxed then I get angry and I either cut more or go deeper

How will I feel after hurting myself?
Relaxed, the stinging pain makes me feel better. I am no longer focusing on my emotional pain

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Guilty, disgusted and ashamed of myself also I feel terrified if someone sees my cuts

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
I'm not sure what my stressor is to me i randomly feel so low that there isn't anyway out

Do I need to hurt myself?
That's the big question, to me I do. I deserve it

Offline Jamie55

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
I don't know. It just helps...

What has brought me to this point?
I hate my life,  I hate myself, I have no friends... Just want to disappear.

Have I been here before?
Yes. 2 years ago...

What did I do to deal with it?
No idea. Someone reported me at school, and I was scared.

How did I feel then?
Terrible.

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
Sleep. lots of it.

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
No idea

How do I feel right now?
Empty. sad and wishing it was all over.

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
In control. calmed.

How will I feel after hurting myself?
worse, alot worse.

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Empty again. And shameful towards myself.

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
No idea.

Do I need to hurt myself?
Yes... Its the only way to deal with it.

Offline SteveP

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?

To be fair I'm not  totally sure. It happens at the height of an emotional storm and its a compulsion. Part of it may be it takes me away from the immediate feelings but I think in part its because i feel i deserve to be hurt.

What has brought me to this point?

Lack of any other strategies to cope and not feeling that there is any support. Long story  short I suspect its based in things that happened to me as a child, all of 40+ years ago.

Have I been here before?

Yes, in the past its been hitting walls and stuff with fists or head, recently its become cutting my wrists.

What did I do to deal with it?

I hid my feelings, suppressed them so deep even i couldnt remember them

How did I feel then?

Empty, and scared

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?

Nothing good, drank much too much, got into trouble with the law, trashed a few relationships.

What else can I do that won't hurt me?

Dont know, the problem is i dont want to stop hurting my self.

How do I feel right now?

Like an egg shell

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?

Very upset, emotional, scared and alone

How will I feel after hurting myself?

Numb but more in control, a bot, and  like I have been deservedly punished.

How will I feel tomorrow morning?

Back to square one

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?

Not really avoid its life, my life, thats doing this to me, even if its my fault I am in this situation.

Do I need to hurt myself?
Yes

Offline girlsnguns

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
I feel like I'm in control of my emotions ,
What has brought me to this point?
Life events
Have I been here before?
Yep been self harming for 10 years
What did I do to deal with it?
Music
How did I feel then?
Lost,alone,usless
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
Talked to my boyfriend
What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Rubber band around my wrist ( ping it when the urge comes ) , hold an ice cube till it hurts
How do I feel right now?
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Undercontroll
How will I feel after hurting myself?
Satisfied
How will I feel tomorrow morning?
sh**
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
No idea
Do I need to hurt myself?
Nope .......but I do

Offline sparkle78

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Why do I feel the need to hurt myself?
I'm angry, upset, a rubbish wife, worthless.
What brought me to this point?
Found out my husband has cheated on me
Have I been here before?
I've hurt myself before so yes
What did I do to deal with it?
b**n myself hit myself
How did I feel then?
Stupid weak selfish
What have I done to ease this discomfort so far?
I've cried
What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Sleep cry
How do I feel right now?
Sad alone worthless
How will I feel when I'm hurting myself?
Better calm forget the hurt
How will I feel after hurting myself?
Same as before, sad worthless
How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Probably the same as now
Can I avoid the stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
No
Do I need to hurt myself?
Yes

Offline Innocent Forever

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Re: Before you self harm, ask yourself these questions... *Triggering Content*
« Reply #19 on: September 04, 2016, 03:28:48 AM »
Well, I'm not thinking so much of self harm this minute as death, but:

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?

I don't know. Maybe it'll get the pain out

What has brought me to this point?
Continuing to find new ways of hurting myself however hard I try to stop

Have I been here before?
No. I've wanted to self harm before. But I've never tried to figure out what I am now

What did I do to deal with it?

Call people - I can't now, too late, distracted myself

How did I feel then?
Calmer

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
Journalled. Wasting time on online forums

What else can I do that won't hurt me?

Distract myself online. Maybe email some friends that I'm up and in a mess

How do I feel right now?

Messed up

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Self loathing. Calm

How will I feel after hurting myself?
Anger. Despair

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Frustration, resentment, anger, despair

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?

The stressor is myself

Do I need to hurt myself?
It feels like yes, but don't know. Hope not to