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This has been on the site before, but I thought I would repost it as I need it now. Feel free to post your own responses to the questions or ask them privately to yourself via writing them down or even in a word document without posting x

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
What has brought me to this point?
Have I been here before?
What did I do to deal with it?
How did I feel then?
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
What else can I do that won't hurt me?
How do I feel right now?
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
How will I feel after hurting myself?
How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
Do I need to hurt myself?

source: http://www.rethink.org/living_with_mental_illness/coping_in_a_crisis/suicide_self_harm/self_harming/help_for_self.html

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?

I haven't cut in a while, and I've never cut deep enough. I want to prove that I'm strong enough to cut properly

What has brought me to this point?

Came home feeling terrible, one of my friends has recently admitted to SH and ED which gave me triggering thoughts, I've been alone for a while.

Have I been here before?

Yes, every time my cuts begin to fade again, and most times when i'm feeling down. But I've never been triggered by a friend's SH before.

What did I do to deal with it?

Cut, went to bed, slapped myself.

How did I feel then?

Weak, stupid, like I shouldn't have chickened out from doing what i needed to do.

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?

Cut a little, slapped myself, changed outfits,

What else can I do that won't hurt me?

Go to bed, listen to music

How do I feel right now?

tired, sad, guilty, alone

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?

good, proud, anxious but excited.

How will I feel after hurting myself?

guilty but glad i could go through with it.


How will I feel tomorrow morning?

guilty, anxious that my mum will see

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?

my previous cuts with always heal, so i'll always want to remake them. I don't know, just distracting myself or putting it off just builds up feelings and guilt at not doing it.

Do I need to hurt myself?

i think so. i'll try not to go too deep, but if i don't the cuts will just heal up quicker and i'll cut more often. i just dont know what else to do and theres no one with me to talk me out of it.

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? I hate myself and my head's in a mess
What has brought me to this point? Going over and over questions my CPN has asked me
Have I been here before? Yes
What did I do to deal with it? write stuff down
How did I feel then? clearer
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? thought a lot. wrote stuff down. read other posts to try to make sense of things
What else can I do that won't hurt me? go to sleep
How do I feel right now? confused, uncomfortable and crap
How will I feel when I am hurting myself? calm
How will I feel after hurting myself? calm and a bit guilty
How will I feel tomorrow morning? stupid
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future? I don't know
Do I need to hurt myself? I don't know

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Re: Before you self harm, ask yourself these questions... *Triggering Content*
« Reply #4 on: September 24, 2013, 02:20:12 PM »

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
I feel release...from anything

What has brought me to this point?
I think it's me. no one else, control, power

Have I been here before?
many times > 10 yrs

What did I do to deal with it?
I try relaxation but I succumb to more devastating consequences, - alcohol, drugs, cuts.
How did I feel then?
tired...
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
the wrong thing - alcohol

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
run run run. work, out , talk to people who won't judge

How do I feel right now?
perplexed. do I trust her? do I allow myself to move on from my own control....

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
release

How will I feel after hurting myself?
concern re the consequences. no bikinis, no short shorts...

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
tired...

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
move on. accept another alternative. stop drinking!
Do I need to hurt myself?
no I don't,
but I do.
ok life sucks sometime, but i want to spread joy with those who i can. and would be ecstatic if i could receive some from others.

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
i dont know how else to stop the thoughts.. if i dont cut will i do something worse

What has brought me to this point?
memories, flashbacks. not much sleep. im more emotional than usual

Have I been here before?
not for a while.. i forgot what it felt like. it feels like i am stuck in a cage surrounded by traps. no one can get in or out

What did I do to deal with it?
i cut. a lot. it was a suicide attempt. i wasnt thinking straight. i wanted to die and believed cutting would do it

How did I feel then?
horrible. worthless. vulnerable. trapped. stuck. powerless. desperate, alone.

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
i havent cut? i guess thats good. its been 2 days. ive tried to sleep. i went to the cinema today. i watched tv. i played games on my phone. it isnt really working. its still there. it feels like its getting stronger

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
cry a lot? i dont want to cry a lot. i end up panicking and when i panic i end up attempting

How do I feel right now?
trapped. nervous. upset

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
hopefully relieved. probably not relieved. probably worse. ashamed. maybe better. less trapped. i dont know

How will I feel after hurting myself?
like it wasnt good enough. like i need to do more. deeper. i need to get the bad out. i need to make some space to breathe. i need oxygen. i need to get more of the bad out

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
sore. nervous that my parents will see. that my dad will shout at me and hit me. like i should have cut deeper. like i should have died

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
i dont know how to? how do you deal with something you didnt know existed..

Do I need to hurt myself?
maybe? i dont know
I wish I'd seen you as a little girl, Without your armour to fend off the world.

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
Because I hate myself and it is what I deserve.

What has brought me to this point?
I cut myself accidentally on my forearm a few weeks ago. I made it deeper and reopened it each evening for a week. It felt good to have it there in such an obvious place but with an excuse for why it was there. Couldn't keep it open any longer though without people getting suspicious. It is starting to heal now so I need something else. Thoughts of doing something getting more and more frequent.

Have I been here before?
Many times

What did I do to deal with it?
Often cut or other harms.

How did I feel then?
Depends if I caused enough damage to satisfy myself. Often frustrated. Otherwise calmer, satisfied, but anxious of discovery.

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
Trying to keep busy. Posting here.

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Maybe write down whatever I feel.

How do I feel right now?
Sad

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Calm

How will I feel after hurting myself?
Don't know

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Don't know

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
Can I stop hating myself? Don't see how.

Do I need to hurt myself?
I deserve it but those around me don't deserve to be upset by it. I'm still undecided.

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
To punish myself

What has brought me to this point?
Therapy and being unwell all the time

Have I been here before?
Yes

What did I do to deal with it?
I OD'ed and cut

How did I feel then?
Better for a while

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
Cried many times, listened to music, posted

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
Sleep I guess

How do I feel right now?
Alone, fed up guilty and slightly envious

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
Relieved

How will I feel after hurting myself?
Relieved still

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
Tired from being in A&E

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
Don't know. Therapy's going to make me feel this way for a while

Do I need to hurt myself?
Yes, I just really don't want to ruin my body again
Last SH: 05.01.2016
Last purge: 16.09.13
Last OD: 30.05.15

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? Because I want to feel special and be loved but I am not special or loveable. I need to show this to myself.
What has brought me to this point? Wanting to be good enough but never being good enough.
Have I been here before? Yes
What did I do to deal with it? Cut or other harm.
How did I feel then? Relief
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? Talked to my therapist. Emailed my sister. Posted.
What else can I do that won't hurt me? Music.
How do I feel right now? Stupid
How will I feel when I am hurting myself? In control
How will I feel after hurting myself? Justified
How will I feel tomorrow morning? Possibly cross with myself. Possibly pleased. Sore
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future? Stop feeling so b****y sorry for myself and get a grip.
Do I need to hurt myself? I think so

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Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
because im a freak who deserves to feel as much pain physically as i feel f****ed up mentally

What has brought me to this point?
family issues, friend issues, sleep deprivation, stress, unable to cope with myself

Have I been here before?
since may last year

What did I do to deal with it?
scratching my body

How did I feel then?
like a failure because i thought id never do it and i was helping others to stop

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?
cut myself, stopped sleeping cause of nightmares/dreams stopped eating for days at time

What else can I do that won't hurt me?
nothing. my friends either dont care anymore or have no clue what to do so i dont bother hurting them with knowledge

How do I feel right now?
like a freak needing to cut

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
almost in ectasy, numb

How will I feel after hurting myself?
a failure, depending on how bad suicidal

How will I feel tomorrow morning?
incredibly guilty because i cant push myself atm to kill myself

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
i have no clue

Do I need to hurt myself?
i think i do but i will lose a friend for ever the next time i do. but i may do it anyday now so...
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