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Survivor Room / Re: Family and self harm *may trig sh*

« Last post by pixie girl on April 26, 2021, 10:55:07 PM »

I am familiar with the kind of over bearing worry your parents are putting on you as my mum would do the same thing to me. I went out and i found printed literature on self harm explaining it in great detail - a booklet i got from the mental health team at the time. It didn't sink in right away but I believe it eased some of my mum's worries. She is smothering you because she is worried and because she loves you. Inside your parents head they are still on worse case scenario mode and a little bit of education and time for their worries to ease might help here.

It isn't easy to be patient with other people but they have feelings too. You obviously can't feel you can talk to your parents which i can relate too. I am glad you have someone you can talk to and they seem to be the best person to help you.

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Survivor Room / Re: Progress.

« Last post by so sad on April 13, 2021, 03:09:29 PM »

What a great post to read - I am so proud of you. You have worked incredibly hard to get to this point - enjoy it and please keep us updated.

Mx

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Survivor Room / Re: Progress.

« Last post by Lorien on April 13, 2021, 03:30:51 AM »

  So glad to hear that all your hard work is paying off. You definitely deserve it.

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Survivor Room / Re: Progress.

« Last post by Tucan on April 10, 2021, 09:27:37 AM »

Morning.

Happy to hear that there is improvement for you. I wish
Sh you well with your endeavours. You are doing so well. I hope you are proud of how far you have come.

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Survivor Room / Re: Progress.

« Last post by Terri on April 10, 2021, 12:05:49 AM »

Heya.


Thank you for all of the lovely responses.

I just wanted to say hi and update you a little bit. Had a blip a little while ago, but things are much improved now.

University is definitely going ahead. I had my DSA assessment a few weeks ago.and I'm being provided with some equipment, software and a mentor for an hour a week during term time. Student finance has been agreed to cover tuition and maintenance and work are changing my hours to accommodate the days I have lectures (8 years later and they are still being incredible.)

I'm finally getting to meet the boy I've been talking to at the end of the month. He lives in Wales, so we haven't been able to see each other in person, though we video chat regularly and message daily.

Weight loss and staying active is going well. I've been going to some outdoor classes since the end of March and it's been so nice to exercise in a group again. The gym opens on Monday and I'm booked in for some personal training starting in a couple of weeks.

I've got two modules of DBT left before I'll have completed my two rounds. I'll then be doing some work with my SCM practitioner as well as some trauma work if I feel I want to/it would be helpful. DBT is blooming difficult, more difficult than anything I've ever done. It's becoming clearer how worth it it is though, even if I still sometimes really fight against it. I'm scared I don't know enough and that I'll not be able to keep up with skills, but I know I have to try my absolute hardest if I'm going to live the life I'd like to.


I still have my wonderful friends, my family and my cat. I still have my beautiful flat with a bench in the sunny courtyard. I still have hope that things can get better and that perhaps I can actually do this.

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Archived research topics / Re: Self-harm thoughts and behaviours in the student population

« Last post by AZP on March 31, 2021, 12:50:40 PM »

Hi everyone,

I am updating this post as recruitment for the study has now closed.

Thank you to everyone who has viewed this post and to anyone who has taken part in the research.
Your time and attention have been most appreciated.

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Research Topics / Looking to talk to UK based self-harmers who have been discriminated against by A&E staffs

« Last post by freelancejournalist on March 23, 2021, 11:45:01 AM »

Hello! My name is Joyce Leung, and I am a freelance journalist who is working with my colleague, Sebastian Skov Anderson on a story about UK self-harmers are being discriminated against or being treated differently at A&E. We are looking to speak to people over 16 years old who might have experienced this. I can't open a post here because I am not with an organisation.

We've spoken to several self-harmers in the past, all of whom had similar experiences. We've also spoken to a professor for this article.

Please dm me or comment down below if you are interested in having an interview with us! Thank you. Unfortunately, to maintain journalism integrity, we only grant anonymity to people who might face life risk if they go public.

Thank you!

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Survivor Room / Re: Progress.

« Last post by so sad on March 23, 2021, 11:16:42 AM »

Hi Terri

What a brilliant post to come across 

You really have made a tonne of progress - very proud of you.  You are living proof that things can change and for the better. DBT is incredibly hard so well done with sticking at it and making it work for you.

Congratulations on the weight loss. That is also a really tough thing to battle with but clearly you are winning. It does make a bug difference to how we feel and the exercise is a great thing to be doing and enjoying.

I have to admit to being envious of you going to Uni (maybe I should use DBT to manage that  ) - I wish I had your strength and courage.

Please keep us informed - I always look out for your posts.

Mx

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Survivor Room / Re: Progress.

« Last post by Tigger on March 22, 2021, 09:18:15 AM »

Terri this sounds so great. I have  come backwards and forwards to this forum for years, so have followed you along the way.  I'm really pleased you are doing so well and glad you have shared as it gives hope to everybody struggling. Keep yp the good work 

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Survivor Room / Re: Medical procedures/examinations with past trauma *SA*

« Last post by Vermilion on March 13, 2021, 01:13:57 PM »

So this sh** is just part of being a woman. Gosh, that makes me feel heaps better /s. I've tried to ask for professional help but everywhere is restricted because of the Covid. Maybe I am being stupid after all, even professionals can't help.